Marriages are made in heaven

Girls as always, love putting guys into situations.. (Hmm.. don’t want anyone of you to come after me for being so chauvinistic.. but the fact still remains.. hehe).. The other day.. Don’t know what happened to an old friend of mine.. Out of nothing she asked me, “Ravi, I have got a very interesting topic we can talk about”.. Trying to show that I was very curious, I replied "Hmm.. go ahead”.. Little did I know that she was going to shoot at me from point-blank range before she said, “Ravi, you are one of my best friends.. And you also happen to know me since a very long time.. You know everything that I like or dislike.. So I want you to tell me what kind of a guy should I be looking for to get hitched to”..

And this is what I call a situation.. You are sitting in front of someone who apparently claims to have immense trust in you.. You have been given the honour to speak about one of the most important things about to happen in her life.. Also this sounded to me like a test of my friendship.. Test because I thought she was more interested in knowing how much I knew her rather than what would I have suggested her.. A friendship of maybe 5-6 years to be evaluated in one shot.. Indeed a tough call..

The problem with me was, till then I had myself never given such things a thought ( I think I am too young for all this yaar).. But girls are girls.. They ask you something and then they don’t let you rest in peace without you giving an answer.. So I knew, I had to be game.. I had to think about what made an ideal and suitable hubby.. Trying to bring out the diplomatic best out of myself, I told her that she should be looking for a guy who should otherwise be serious but should be capable of making her laugh, should be soft spoken, should be down to earth, always approachable, very smart, caring, honest, loyal, should be understanding, should respect her as a person and last but not the least should love her.. She was listening carefully but turned the table upside down when she told “Ravi, don’t you think you are talking about some alien?? Aisa bhi koi banda milega kya re?? ” I was again dumbfounded..

Now coming to the less sensitive species called boys.. Is there any one of us, who, if given a chance, would not want to go around with Katrina Kaif, the eternal diva?? Almost everyone of us is enamoured by the glow of her skin, the aura around her.. Even then, honestly speaking, I don’t think anyone of us would want to marry the BOOMing beauty (I really dont want to offend the sentiments of people who can even give their lives for her).. Then what is it that marks the difference?? Any guy would want for himself a girl who is pretty conservative, a little shy, very cute, chubby, trustworthy, someone who will make him feel proud, who is beautiful but at the same time is not at all proud of her beauty.. Some might want her to be good at singing or dancing or cooking or all of these.. For some, she should be independent, individualistic and yet with zero attitude.. Can you see how tailor-made our requirements have become??

Well.. I very well know that I am very raw to have taken up this topic.. I have generalised a lot of things here.. Must have already caused many of you to have raised your eyebrows (I would appreciate if you dont judge me by all this).. But with whatever sense of judgement I have, I think the only possible answer to all our desires is going to be in a ‘compromise’.. Each one of us knows that one can never get ‘that’ custom-made partner for ourself.. Marriages are supposed to mark the bonding between not only two souls but two families.. Though we would prefer choosing our life mates ourselves, most of the marriages in our contemporary society are still arranged by our parents.. Both love and arranged marriages have their pros and cons (let us keep away from that discussion at least for today)..

Ever heard somebody saying “Marriages are made in heaven.. ‘He’ has already planned everything for everyone”?? Sounds very lame, isn’t it?? I have always wondered if this belief of our old-fashioned and orthodox elders is indeed true.. If you happen to bring home your muse all by yourself, you would want your parents to accept him or her.. Similarly, if your parents happen to choose one for you, in that case you will have to be the one to accept things.. But either of you or your parents would need some basis to welcome this marriage, right?? I dont know if everything in life goes about according to His plans.. But one thing is for sure.. This belief of predestined marriage alliances certainly has the power to be that 'basis' for both you and your parents in the respective scenarios..

If you are seeing somebody right now or have got married to someone and are worried if you are with the right person.. Or if you are still single and ready to mingle.. You need not worry a single bit.. coz you have never really had a choice..

After all, marriages are made in heaven...